Happiness is your creation and with a meditation practice you will
learn, experience and master the art of being happy.
The purpose of meditation is to make our mind calm and joyful. If our mind is joyful, we will find the freedom and fulfillment in all our experiences. We will learn to see all life circumstances as author, Stuart Wilde says to be an Amazing Experience. Being free from worries and mental discomfort, gives us the opportunity to experience true happiness; but if our mind is not peaceful, we will find it very difficult to be happy, healthy and soulful, even if we are living in the very best conditions. When we train our mind in meditation, we gradually become more and more settled and content, and as our experience builds we find our life more peaceful. Eventually, we will be able to stay happy all the time, even in the most difficult circumstances. In the book Feeling Good Matters, The Yoga of Mind, Medicine and Healing it states, “Live in the World but Don’t Be Affected by It.”
Live in the World But Remain Above
Being involved in the happenings of the world, it becomes difficult to control our mind. Our mind has been likened to a monkey swinging from branch to branch – jumping here and there by external distractions. If things go the way that we desire, our mind is happy; but if circumstances go the other way, it immediately becomes unhappy. An example of this is seen, when we get what we want, such as a new job, house or a new partner, we become excited and mentally grasp them tightly. They become ours. We experience a joy; but we somehow forget that this is not permanent since, after all, everything in the external world is subject to death and decay. On the other hand, if we do not get what we want, or if we lose something that we like, we become saddened or irritated. For example, if we are working at a job that we don’t really want, but do it for whatever need it serves, then we will constantly be disturbed and distracted with thoughts of negativity and escape.
In reality, we don’t get what we want, and this is probably a good thing. The point here is that we must break our habit of grasping outside possessions for happiness and contentment, otherwise, we are certain to experience pain. Meditation helps you break this habit. Ultimately through meditation practice, we learn to use and enjoy our possessions with the understanding that they are here now to enjoy but are only temporary. As I have heard the masters say, “all things in the world are here for you to use and enjoy, but they are not yours to keep.” This becomes clear as we journey into knowing ourself through the practice of meditation.
3 Steps to Break the Mind’s Habit of Grasping
- When you find yourself at the junction of disappointment, Remain Calm. Become aware of what it is that you are brewing over without reacting.
- Exhale, Inhale and Exhale again, until you feel the release from your mind. The length of time it takes usually correlates with the level of mind control that one has acquired through practice.
- Sit down, and journal what took place in your mind. Journaling is an excellent tool to take the issue out of the mind so that you can maintain your healing force online.